18 de Outubro de 2019 -

Is your curiosity assertive?

por Felipe Dib

Hello, my friend! How are you? If you're out of time or "in a rush", go to the last paragraph of this text for a fast answer.

In times of immediate responses and connection 24 hours a day, talking about long-term transformation is a risk! But… we believe you can (and must!) dream big, and make a daily effort to get better every day. This is our mission - seeing you speaking English and being a Leader wherever you go. "The 5 Essential People Skills" was written by Dale Carnegie and its goal is to improve your people skills. In other words, to improve your relationships at work and at home.

Last class we started talking about assertive curiosity and we studied 3 points:

1- Make assertive curiosity an emotional experience;

2- See yourself as a student;

3- Interactive listening.

Point 4 is being interactive without an agenda. "It's about being flexible in adjusting to other people's interests and having the confidence to admit that another point of view might be just as valid as your own". Dale lists several questions (17 to be precise - yes, I counted them) and all of them have one thing in common: they're open questions. Start your questions with "WH" questions and the conversation will become more interesting.

Point 5 is sharing your personal stories with flare. "How can you ignite curiosity in another person if you yourself don't seem very interesting?" There have to be some theatrics involved, Dale explains. The last point (6) is humor. "Humor and curiosity go together, because both depend on the pleasure of surprise and the unexpected".

Understand other people's point of view so you can adjust yours, share your stories with flare and add humor to your life. When people are having fun they're open to listen and learn. Who's the funniest person you know? Comment here and see you next class!

1. When you're curious, ___.

2. Being interactive without an agenda means ___.

3. Other points of view are ___.

4. We must communicate with ___.

5. Humor and curiosity depend on the ___ of ___.

6. Dib asks you to answer how you can ___.

7. In the article we learn that when people are ___ they're open to ___.

8. The article shows the first point is ___ and the last one is ___.

9. Humor is made with the ___.

10. Next class we'll see we must recognise what others need to ___.