09 de Março de 2020 -

How do I ask a hard question?

por Felipe Dib

Hello, my friend! How are you? If you're out of time or "in a rush", go to the last paragraph of this text for a fast answer.

In times of immediate responses and connection 24 hours a day, talking about long-term transformation is a risk! But… we believe you can (and must!) dream big, and make a daily effort to get better every day. This is our mission - seeing you speaking English and being a Leader wherever you go. "The 5 Essential People Skills" was written by Dale Carnegie and its goal is to improve your people skills. In other words, to improve your relationships at work and at home.

"No matter what kind of interpersonal exchange you're having, the information you receive will be dictated by the information you request". Ask the right questions if you need to hear the right answers, my friend. Dale presents different kinds of questions:

Open questions: normally start with "wh" (what, where, who, when, why).

Closed questions: when you need to know "yes" or "no", you ask them.

Funnel questions: police officers use them. The answer is the basis for the next question.

Leading questions: you show your opinion with them. "Isn't it fast?".

Think before you ask a hard question. Hard questions would rather be asked privately, and you must be calm. Find a way to create a relaxed atmosphere so the other person feels comfortable to answer it. The response may surprise you. Have you ever asked a hard question? Comment here about this situation and see you next class!

1. An open question doesn't bring "___" answers.

2. Leading questions have ___ answer.

3. The tag questions show your ___.

4. Dib tells you to ___ before you ask a hard question.

5. Before asking, we must know the ___.

6. Dib talks about the importance of the ___ after your question.

7. Felipe says questions must be ___.

8. The article says hard questions would rather ___.

9. The article tells us to be ___ before we ask a hard question.

10. Find a way to create a ___ so the other person feels ___ to answer your questions.